Toddlers are pragmatic enough to understand that whining is a method by which they can get what they want from their parents. Instead of being annoying, their aim is just simply to produce the desired results. It is also another way of substituting for their lack of verbal skill to make a request. According to Dr. Tina Gabby of the University of California, lack of verbal skills makes them frustrated, resulting in whining. Hence, parents need to teach their kids more verbal skills to express themselves so that they will stop using whining as an alternative to have their way.
Firstly, explain to the kids that whining sounds harsh and awful. Tell them the difference between their normal sound and whining. Let them understand that people dislike the unpleasant sound of their whining and therefore will not listen to them. The difference can be demonstrated to them by imitating their whining noise in a serious manner or recording their normal and whining noises for them to hear. The playback of the recording or demonstration of the whining could be done when all are in a good mood.
Children also whine to satisfy their need for attention. They need parental attention when they are tired, hungry or want to express something. Tell the kids to express what they want in words without whining. When they try to use words encourage them and respond to their demand immediately, or tell them that you will do it as early as possible, and then follow it through. Kids cannot wait for long. A two year or a three year old kid could probably have the patient to wait two and three minutes respectively. Praise them if they wait without whining. When their request is made, the kids will realize that there are better ways to voice their request and then they will gradually stop whining.
Engaging the kids in conversation is another way to stop whining. Ask them the reasons for whining and promise them that you will satisfy all their reasonable demands. And also, tell them firmly that they are not going to get what they want if they go on whining. However, it will be like adding oil to fire if you get angry with them. Also, use visual expressions such as closing your ears and wincing when they whine, and showing a happy expression when they stop.
Many reasons can cause kids to whine. Taking your kid for an outing without feeding them can cause them hungry when outside. Taking away kids during their usual naptime also can cause whining. Avoid such circumstances. In such cases feed them before you leave or take along some healthy snacks to feed them when they are hungry. Also, ensure that they have their proper nap.
Being consistent with your rules at all times, giving proper care and attention to the kids, and trying to divert their attention, and so on are other ways to stop the kids from whining.
Posted on May 27th, 2008 by admin
Filed under: Baby, Behavior, Child Care, Language Development, Toddler
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