Here are some more tips for parents to get over the rebelliousness of their toddlers, who at a certain stage of their development fall in love with the word “No!” and never want to say “Yes!” These additional tips are also every effective to make any hardened “No!” devil say “Yes!”
Try to get their full attention when you want them to do something. One method is to place your hands on each of their arms and tell them to do what you want by looking right into their eyes. This will draw their full attention, making them understand your seriousness and they will become a sort of obliged to cooperate.
Some toddlers like to do everything by themselves, such as brushing, eating, bathing and so on. When parents want to help them, they say “No!” One way to solve such problem is by taking turns. For example, if the toddlers want to get out of the car by themselves, but at their own leisure, then you have a problem. Try giving them some time, say — ten seconds — to do it. Start counting from one to ten. Before that, tell them if they don’t come out within the time, it will be your turn and you are going to help them. Usually, they will be out of the car before you count the number ten.
Leaving them to do what they want for sometime without getting angry with their refusal is another tactic. For example, if the toddlers refuse to get dressed then simply tell them that you are going to the laundry to wash some clothes. It often happens that the toddlers will quickly change their mind and call for you within a few seconds to assist them with the dressing.
Toddlers like to compete with their peers. For example, they want to do everything their friends do, that also one step better. Hence, if you want them to do something, tell them to show you how so and so does it. They will be eager to do it, may be better.
Small kids like to imitate their elder brother or sister. If there is an elder kid in the family s/he will like to play the big sister or big brother role. They like to egg the younger ones to imitate their actions. For example, they might prompt the younger ones to jump on the sofa. The younger toddlers refuse to obey when parents tell them to stop. Under this circumstances, tell the elder brother or sister to teach the younger ones the rules. They will be proud to play the big boy or girl who knows the rules and teach the younger ones what to do.
Another strategy is to give the kids an option to do their favorite task if they do another task you want them to perform. If the kids love to water the plant tell them they can do it if they pick up the pieces of paper lying on the floor.
Posted on May 28th, 2008 by admin
Filed under: Behavior, Tips, Toddler
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